What to do to love yourself

What to do to love yourself

Mere glance at the title What to do to love yourself and instant reaction by people would be I need to read this to find out: (1) How much more I need to know to make myself happy or (2) Is this article for me I need some guidance or (3) I don’t need any help I am already happy. It is something that every person needs to know as well as to follow to be completely satisfied with himself and the surroundings. Let us congratulate the people who fall into (1) and (2) as they are brutally honest about their perceptions and self-awareness people who are coming in the category (3) are busy in the business of living at times giving more to life and at times taking more from life. 

To love yourself you need to be at peace with yourself. The mind is constantly thinking of many things, which can trigger a lot of emotions the various factors could due to:
 

1) Highly Self-critical

2) Lack of patience

3) Insecurity

4) Comparison of self 

5) Greed

In short, all negative feelings, which holds a person at ransom for his well-being. 

Each of the above could be in varying proportions of the could play in a person mind and an objective mind should first acknowledge that such negativity serves no fruitful purpose

Now we come to a point where we need to attack negativity of the mind to neutralize this and create a platform to breed positive thought and bring in the elements all positivity as the first step to start loving yourself. First, we must break this. To do this we need to do things that will distract our current frame of mind and this will automatically bring in a new thought or new think process:

1) Meditation: Numerous articles are propagating this technique which brings calms the mind 

2) Raising a pet

3) Learning a skill or language

4) Reach out to less fortunate people. They teach you how blessed we are and eventually the attitude of gratitude filters down ourselves. What starts as trickle becomes a deluge and without your noticing, you are at peace. 

So simple? Theoretically YES but through persistent efforts, the negative thoughts are destroyed and you start looking at positive aspects of negative situations. 

Then why is everyone unable to do this? That is because they cannot LET GO. Have you noticed how a child is emanating love? It is because every child is unassuming, living for the moment in whatever be the situation loves itself.

Remember we grew up from child to adult. Where did we lose this? That’s the whole problem. We GREW but developed fixed perceptions and notions by the people and events around us. To maintain that image, we halted all behaviors and stunted out thinking. 

We have to change our perception. Mahatma Gandhi oft-popular belief; be the change you wish to be or in other words, everything is in the MIND.